Welcome to this sanctuary
for women navigating
midlife & Menopause

If you’re feeling lost on this journey:
It is time to find yourself again.

Stella Tomlinson - a woman with reddish brown curly hair and gold hoop earrings smiling outdoors with trees and green foliage in the background.

Hi, I’m Stella.
Therapist & Author

I view midlife and menopause as a powerful - but deeply misunderstood - rite of passage.

But I absolutely acknowledge it can feel incredibly challenging when you're struggling with anxiety, hot flushes, and wondering who you are now.

So may I offer you a space to calm the anxieties of this transition, replace self-criticism with self-compassion, and help you find yourself again?

A personal welcome from Stella

Are you living,
or Just Surviving?

You’ve spent the first half of your life holding everything together.

Meeting expectations. Being a good partner, worker, friend, parent.

You may look as though you're coping well.

But beneath the surface…

You overthink. Second-guess yourself.

Worry about things you can't control.

You’re struggling with anxiety and overwhelm (and maybe hot flushes & night sweats too).

… and you no longer feel able to function - or feel - the way you truly want to.

And perhaps you’re asking these bigger questions…

Who am I now?

What matters most to me?

What do I want from this next chapter of my life?

Welcome
to this supportive space

If you are in midlife, perimenopause or menopause itself and you’re feeling a bit lost, overwhelmed or undone then

Together, we can help you:

  • Restore calm and protect your energy
    If you are struggling with hot flushes, broken sleep, anxiety, or a nervous system on constant overdrive.

  • Find deep clarity and inner strength
    If you are feeling untethered and struggling with self-doubt, low confidence and feeling never good enough.

  • Reclaim your focus and flow
    If you are paralysed by creative blocks, struggling with a loud inner critic, procrastination or perfectionism.

…And create meaningful, lasting change so you can embrace the liberating power of midlife and menopause to finally know and accept yourself, at last.

A Different way forward

Here, neuroscience meets soulful depth.

Solution-Focused Hypnotherapy is entirely different from traditional talk therapies that dwell on the past.

We don’t need to dig up old wounds. Instead we look to the future.

We work together to calm your body and mind to help you drop into your inner wisdom and true values to:

  • Focus on what you need

  • Where you want to go

  • And the positive steps you can take to get there.

So you can reclaim the potential and power of your midlife rite of passage.

More about hypnotherapy

Hear from some previous clients

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    “Stella’s sessions feel safe, gentle, and encouraging, yet stretching and transformative at the same time.

    Stella has a wonderful way of making you feel at ease, while also skilfully asking insightful questions to help you take small, powerful steps forward.

    I came away from each session feeling not only inspired to move forward but incredibly relaxed and grounded!

    I feel more resilient – like I can handle whatever life throws at me without becoming overwhelmed.”

    — Lizzie (Winchester, UK)

  • Sunlight through trees

    "I recommend Stella because I found her knowledgeable, empathetic and clearly passionate about her work.

    "I felt supported, safe and energised to make the changes I wanted to make.

    I came looking for help with procrastination, but I feel I have taken away a much deeper understanding of myself, along with practical tools that I can continue using beyond the sessions.”

    — Samantha (Southampton, UK)

  • Sunrise through three trees in a field

    “Stella is very personable and immediately makes you feel comfortable"

    I felt I could be completely honest and no subjects were off limits. Stella was never judgmental about anything I shared. Instead she helped me make sense of certain feelings and behaviours.

    I was hoping to achieve a ‘quieter mind’ and Stella was very supportive in this.

    The model of looking forward and focusing on solutions was a new concept for me but it gave me ownership and responsibility to take control which was very liberating.”

    — Amber (Hampshire, UK)

  • Sunlight through tree branches

    "Stella is a very likeable, kind, perceptive and caring person"

    She listens, summarises and reflects back what you have said very well.

    She is also good at giving you time to process and work out for what actions you may need to take.

    I like the process in the therapy where one talks through the positive things that have happened recently and then concentrates on something I could do to improve my life even more. 

    I feel this process has helped me to make better decisions myself and not to let my monkey brain or irrational thoughts take over.”

    — Bryony (Southampton, UK)

Meet Stella

A woman with curly blonde hair smiling, wearing a black knitted cardigan and a silver necklace with a teardrop-shaped pendant, indoors with blurred background.

Midlife is a not a crisis and menopause is not a hormone deficiency disorder.

Instead, I believe that midlife and the menopause transition years offer an invitation to awaken - to let go of who you were told to be and remember who you actually are.

BUT yes, that journey can get pretty messy!

I also believe that we each hold the inner resources, strengths and wise guidance within us to regain perspective and move forward.

This deep truth inspires both my books and my transformational work as a therapist.

Let me help you quiet the overthinking and
settle your frazzled nervous system so you can
step forward with confidence
into a deeply aligned second half of your life.

Meet Stella

Are you ready to begin?

If you’re longing to stop spinning in circles and get help to navigate the stormy waters of midlife, you are so very welcome here.

No matter how confused or messy life is for you currently, together we’ll get you feeling calmer and clearer so you can better navigate this season of life.

Let’s help you live a life more alive.

How to work with me

I work online via Zoom.

I’m based in the UK but can see clients from anywhere in the world.

Join me for
the midlife spirit

Soulful words & simple practices to guide your through your midlife journey.

My free Substack publication.

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