navigate midlife Changes & Challenges
with clarity & Calm

Welcome to this sanctuary.
Settle the anxiety,
find your steady ground and…

Live a life more alive

Stella Tomlinson - a woman with reddish brown curly hair and gold hoop earrings smiling outdoors with trees and green foliage in the background.

Hi, I’m Stella.
Therapist & Author.

May I help you feel calmer, clearer and more in control of your life?

No digging up the past.

Just practical, solution-focused support to help you settle the anxiety and reclaim inner peace.

A personal welcome from Stella

Are you living,
or Just Surviving?

You’ve spent years holding everything together.

Meeting expectations. Being a good partner / worker / friend / parent.

You may look as though you're coping well.

But…

You overthink. Second-guess yourself.

Worry about things you can't control.

Maybe you’re experiencing anxieties, identity shifts, creative blocks.

Maybe hot flushes and night sweats.

… and you no longer feel able to function as you would like to.

And perhaps you’re asking these bigger questions…

Who am I now?

What matters most to me?

What do I want from this next chapter of my life?

Welcome
to this supportive space

Together, we can help you:

  • Manage anxieties & fears:
    Restore your natural calm perspective and find your steady ground

…if you are struggling with things like rumination, anxious spirals, overwhelm or fears & phobias.

  • Navigate midlife identity changes:
    Find clarity, confidence and stability during this time of change

…if you’re struggling with things like self-doubt, low confidence, shifting family dynamics and feeling not enough.

  • Cope better with hot flushes & night sweats:
    Regulate your nervous system, manage hot flushes, and feel more comfortable and able to cope

    …if you’re struggling with the vasomotor symptoms of perimenopause and the menopause transition.

  • Overcome creative blocks & burnout:
    Rediscover motivation, focus and flow

…if you are struggling with things like a loud inner critic, procrastination or perfectionism.

…And create meaningful, lasting change.

Here, neuroscience meets soulful depth.

Solution-Focused Hypnotherapy is entirely different from traditional talk therapies that dwell on the past.

Instead we look to the future.

We work together to settle your body and calm your mind to help you:

  • Focus on what you need

  • Where you want to go

  • And the positive steps you can take to get there.

A Different way forward

More about hypnotherapy

Hear from some previous clients

  • Close-up of a young fern frond curled tightly with a fuzzy appearance, with sunlight creating a bright, blurred background.

    “Stella’s sessions feel safe, gentle, and encouraging, yet stretching and transformative at the same time.

    Stella has a wonderful way of making you feel at ease, while also skilfully asking insightful questions to help you take small, powerful steps forward.

    I came away from each session feeling not only inspired to move forward but incredibly relaxed and grounded!

    I feel more resilient – like I can handle whatever life throws at me without becoming overwhelmed.”

    — Lizzie (Winchester, UK)

  • Sunlight through trees

    “I recommend Stella because I found her knowledgeable, empathetic and clearly passionate about her work"

    Throughout the sessions, I felt supported, safe and energised to make the changes I wanted to make.

    I came looking for help with procrastination, but I feel I have taken away a much deeper understanding of myself, along with practical tools that I can continue using beyond the sessions.”

    — Samantha (Southampton, UK)

  • Sunrise through three trees in a field

    “Stella is very personable and immediately makes you feel comfortable"

    I felt I could be completely honest and no subjects were off limits. Stella was never judgmental about anything I shared. Instead she helped me make sense of certain feelings and behaviours.

    I was hoping to achieve a ‘quieter mind’ and Stella was very supportive in this.

    The model of looking forward and focusing on solutions was a new concept for me but it gave me ownership and responsibility to take control which was very liberating.”

    — Amber (Hampshire, UK)

  • Sunlight through tree branches

    "Stella is a very likeable, kind, perceptive and caring person"

    She listens, summarises and reflects back what you have said very well.

    She is also good at giving you time to process and work out for what actions you may need to take.

    I like the process in the therapy where one talks through the positive things that have happened recently and then concentrates on something I could do to improve my life even more. 

    I feel this process has helped me to make better decisions myself and not to let my monkey brain or irrational thoughts take over.”

    — Bryony (Southampton, UK)

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Meet Stella

I believe that change is always possible.

And that we each have the inner resources and wise guidance available within us to regain perspective and move forward.

This belief inspires both my writing and my work as a therapist.

Let me help you quiet the overthinking, reclaim your energy, and step forward into a calmer, more confident life.

Meet Stella

Are you ready to begin?

If you’re ready to begin moving towards your preferred future, you’re very welcome here.

Together let’s get you feeling calmer, clearer, and more like yourself again.

Embrace this season of midlife and walk your path with confidence and clarity.

Let’s help you live a life more alive.

How to work with me

I work online via Zoom.

I’m based in the UK but can see clients from anywhere in the world.